The Girls Don't Want The Guys Anymore

Uh oh.

Welcome to Cheaper Than Therapy, a newsletter by Shani Silver.

This is inspired by a conversation I recently had with a friend of mine. A woman in her mid-forties, also single long-term, like me. Like many of you. I don’t know how the topic came up, because neither of us is the type to waste time talking about boys, but we both said we’re entirely cool with being single. Taking it a step further, we both said that the longer this goes on, the less we want a partner at all. Reader: We were not complaining.

Whether it’s a result of singlehood being so comfortable and free that we’re more scared of giving it up than never giving it up, or maybe we’ve just seen too many women put up with too much garbage from men over the years—either way, I think it’s time to tell the boys that they fucked up. I mean, really fucked up. We would rather have no one than have one of them. Think about the long-term implications of that. Think about all the relationships that will never happen because men would rather be burdens than benefits. Whether it occurs to men now or one day in their 60s when they realize they should have picked one and treated her well, I don’t give a shit. I’m happy. I don’t have to.