Stop Telling Women To Go Where Men Are
Point it the other way around so help me god.
Welcome to Cheaper Than Therapy, a newsletter by Shani Silver.
They never tell men to go where women are because they assume men never have to look for women. If you’re a man worth dating, the assumption is that you have more than enough options, and nobody needs to give you dating advice. You’re the catch, you’re the prize, and the women should naturally, effortlessly come to you. The end result is men refusing to venture outside of the three places they prefer to be (work, gym, home) and scores of women filling public spaces looking around for men who never show up. We still treat “good men” like diamonds in the rough, and outstanding single women as a burden upon society. The consequences of these archaic, sexist tropes are a dating culture that refuses to catch up with reality, and more people living single longer than in all of human history. And I don’t fucking care.
I don’t care! I don’t give a shit how the world still views single women, and how all advice that supposedly leads to partnership is said to single women only. I am so tired of people telling women to change their behavior for men. If you want a man, do this! Try this! Improve this! Go to places they like! Change everything about who you are and what you enjoy and wear a mask that makes you an entirely different person or else you’ll never convince a man to want you! We never even tell men to put on a clean shirt. Stop telling women where they should to go “find a man” and start telling men to live life.
This newsletter was inspired by the comment below, it was left on a video of mine:
Let’s rip it apart, shall we?