Start Blaming Single Men, Right Now

We’re not single because of us. We’re single because of you.

It’s my birthday, so I decided to publish a bonus newsletter for subscribers. This essay was originally published in June of 2022 on Medium, a platform I no longer publish to and if you’d like you can read about why right here. I love this essay, it’s a bit out of my comfort zone but honestly what isn’t. I’d like it to live here now and I hope you enjoy. If you’re not yet a paying subscriber to Cheaper Than Therapy, you can become one here and read the entire archive plus this essay below.

I saw this pool at an estate sale. Shame they weren’t selling it.

I read this piece. I hope you do, too. It’s beautifully written by Morgan Parker and so many single women will see themselves in her words and in her confusion as to why we are alone despite presenting objectively lovable, worthy packages to the world. You’ll feel her sadness and frustration as if it were your own. But that’s the problem. We shouldn’t. This shouldn’t resonate with thousands, love shouldn’t seem so out of reach to so many. It’s just love! I have single female friends in droves. I podcast to an entire community of them. I read deeply reflective and important essays like Parker’s and today was the first day I decided that I never want to read another one—if it’s written by a woman. We’ve been saying this, exploring this, frustrated by this for an entire adulthood now. But we’re not the ones fucking causing it.