If I Found Someone, So Can You!
The myth of "success stories."
Welcome to Cheaper Than Therapy, a newsletter for 80s babies by Shani Silver.
Everyone should have the love they want. I hate that I have to say it but if I don’t, what follows will give off an odor of hopelessness which is never my intention. If you want love and companionship you should have them, and so should I, and someday I believe we will. Since we don’t have them at the present moment, I feel like it’s fine to talk about shitbirds who dismiss our experience of dating culture because dating culture worked for them. To be fair, I encounter this more than most—I’ve opened myself up to it as a result of my profession. But if you met a partner through the dating industry, especially if you did it recently, you are not the rule—you are a giant exception. I would like overly smug and triumphant coupled people to start understanding this, and to stop suggesting that it’s easy just because they don’t have to do it anymore. People don’t meet the love of their lives because they’re good at it. People meet because they get lucky. Period.