I F*cking Told You

A powerful article exposes dating corporations' disregard for safety.

Welcome to Cheaper Than Therapy, a newsletter by Shani Silver.

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On February 13th, 2025 The Guardian published an investigative article titled: “Rape under wraps: how Tinder, Hinge and their corporate owner chose profits over safety,” further subtitled, “Match Group has known since 2016 about abusive users on its dozen dating apps, but leaves millions of people in the dark.” Please read it here. Yes it’s long. Yes you should read it. If your safety is not worth sitting still for ten minutes to consume information I can’t help you.

Dating apps are not on your team, they never have been. We don’t even have to get into the financial part for me to prove it, though I like to think you already know that the last thing a dating app shareholder wants to hear is that you met a partner. It means they’re making less money. If you can be pissed at billionaires for their greed and corruption but you’re comfortable making exceptions for dating corporations because “I might find love!” again, I can’t help you. It is far more important for you to know that dating apps don’t want to help you, because it’s more profitable to knowingly allow rapists to continue to swipe. They can’t let the world find out their product is an easy and unchecked hunting ground for predators, that would decrease revenue. I’m sure that securing corporate profitability is what’s going through a woman’s head when it happens, right?